Talking to Strangers

At least 6 years in the making

People are my guiding light and I love every single one of you in a way that I can’t seem to explain.

When I started this blog back in 2017 I quickly found people reaching out to talk to me about real estate and life but I find email and phone calls impersonal so I insisted on meeting people over video chat

Which quickly turned into me sharing a public link for anyone to set up a video chat with me at their convenience and ever since then my calendar stays full with people who want someone to talk to

Why?

Why do this?

I don’t have a format? 

I don’t prepare nor do I ask the guest to

I don’t have any specific topics I want to cover

This isn’t a sales pitch for anything

I noticed that anyone with an audience or experience charged a lot of money for their time or they would sell coaching and courses. I don’t have any problem with these things but they didn’t fit my personality or motivation. I generally want to help people and I think it’s a good service to humans to just give them my time and undivided attention while asking for nothing in return

Some might say my time isn’t worth that much if I’m just giving it to strangers for free, what’s interesting about this argument is that most of what people reach out to me for is not high value business advice, it’s human connection. I hope my time will never be worth so much that I can’t stop and give a bit of of it away to a human in need. 

Both of those are good enough reasons but at the end of the day, I have a seemingly endless supply of love for individuals and I enjoy spending my days meeting each and every one of you, one by one 

How I got here

I’ve been through some evolutions of this

I didn’t know this would be in such demand so I never really thought much of it but now that it’s been a few years going I’m trying to take it more seriously.

It started as 3 or 4 hours on Tuesday and Thursday nights after work, each call was an hour.

Then my calendar got booked out so many months in advance that people would forget and start ghosting me, I did not like that. So I backed off it a bit, and turned down the hours (instead, I should have set up automated reminders) 

During 2022 my travel schedule was insane and then in 2023 I moved to Hawaii and my work load was so intense that I just had to pause it. There was about a year and half where the links were paused 

Then a few months ago I turned it back on and my calendar is full again, and I love it.

I made some big changes: First I hard stop all calls at 30 minutes. I find this to be a very effective tool in making sure people have a concise conversation and it allows me to talk to twice as many people

I also recently paired this with a database tool so I can now use it to connect people with similar interests or live in nearby locations. So now not only do we have a great conversation I also get to use my gift of connecting people to help people

Until recently I never recorded these and that was a mistake. I should have been publishing this as content on YouTube for years and I just didn’t. Lesson learned.  I have started to publish and share these because I think it’s valuable to show the world that it’s safe and helpful to just sign up and say yes to talking to a stranger. Also with new artificial intelligence tools I can cut short clips out of long form content with ease

What I've learned

I’m surprised by a few things 

  1. Just how many people sign up for this, last week I did 14 (FOURTEEN) 30 minute calls with strangers
  2. People are very excited to talk to new people. Most of them don’t know me, they just saw the link and maybe a blurb about me along the way, and yet they are ecstatic to meet someone new
  3. How much I love it. I genuinely just like meeting new people. I like not knowing what to expect, I like meeting cool people and weirdos alike. I like investing in a person for a bit of time and asking for nothing in return. Sometimes I have super exciting conversations and sometimes I struggle to fill the 30 minutes with a person, both are equally exciting to me. 
  4. That I’m uniquely designed for this. Anyone could do this, it’s free to set up and requires very little prep or systems, but no one does it. I understand from a business perspective it’s not scalable or efficient, but that doesn’t matter to me. I think because I’m an absurd extrovert I just have an endless supply of demand for wanting to be around people, and this allows me to do what maybe other people can’t do 
  5. Most importantly, people are lonely and desperate for community and friends in their life. I’ve written about this before, but the symptoms are worsening. I see it when a person logs in and say “I love that you do this!” and “as soon as I saw this link I signed up immediately!”. While I’m grateful, why would a person with a family, friends, and a social life stop what they are doing to talk to a complete stranger about nothing at all…..

Forever

There are a few things in my life that I have done that I wish I was more consistent with. Newsletters, social media, podcasting, and more. 

I’m getting better at these things because I’m learning how to hire people who help run the parts that I’m bad at – systems and details – and I’m learning of the importance of being able to multiply myself and build foundations of things rather than always bouncing around to new ventures 

With that in mind, I wonder if this is something I could do going forward with no end date. It won’t always be as easy as it is right now, my schedule will change, things will come up, I’ll travel, and all sorts of things

But this gives me so much energy and I think it’s a very healthy way for me to serve people, and I believe people need this more than ever and will need it more as time goes on, not less.

Is it reasonable for me to set my life up in a way that makes sure I give a portion of my time to talk to strangers, forever? It seems like a good goal right now

Have we not met?

I imagine many people reading this will have already taken me up on this offer or met me through this offer, but many more have not. 

Or maybe you have someone you think would have a good conversation with me? 

Don’t hesitate, I like to meet everyone and there is no risk here

Alex Felice

Alex Felice

My name is Alex, I’m a real estate entrepreneur who became camera obsessed This website shares my journey, from creating financial freedom through real estate, to exploring the wisdom of philosophy, and finding my love of art through cameras. Everything I learn about life goes here so I can hopefully make yours easier

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